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GUY'S DO'S AND DON'TS OF DATING |
By Jack Spann |
This is some
dating advice that my dad sent to my son who is 14. I thought this was really cute!
This is what he wrote word for word. My Dad said this is how he got my Mom.
ASKING FOR A
DATE
Personally I never
liked asking for a date on the phone, I liked asking in person, but nothing wrong with
asking on the phone. If this is the first time you have ever talked to her then this
may not be the best time to ask for a date. Call at least a time or two and get to
know her and let her get to know you. When talking try to get a feel to see if she
even wants to date you. If you call and five seconds later she says I have to go
then perhaps you are wasting you time. If she seems interested then perhaps the
first time ask her for a Sunday afternoon coke date. Go to a local drive in, sit and
talk over a coke and maybe take a short drive. This will give you and her the
opportunity to get to know each other. This might be the perfect time to ask her for
a date.
WHAT TO DO ON
A DATE
Sometimes deciding
what to do together is a lot of fun and not just one person doing what they want to do all
the time. Maybe you decide one date and let her decide what to do the next.
But one thing to remember girls if you are reading this, a guy is not made of money,
although if he likes you he will probably spend his last dime and borrow all he can get
from his parents. So be mindful of this when making decisions on what to do.
YOUR
APPEARANCE
Always take a bath at
least within a few hours of the date. Wash and comb your hair. Use an underarm
deodorant. CLEAN YOUR FINGERNAILS, this can't be emphasized enough guys, a girl
notices things that a guy just doesn't think matter, but believe me ask any girl about
fingernails, just look at theirs. Brush your teeth and tongue thoroughly. Why
the tongue, most bad breath comes from the tongue believe it or not, and rinse with a
breath freshener, perhaps take some breath fresheners along. Think about it do you
want to be around or kiss anybody with bad breath. A light cologne is OK, but don't
take a bath in it. Men's cologne, when wearing too much can be very overpowering.
Wear the appropriate clothes. The occasion dictates, if it calls for a suit
then a suit, casual, then casual clothes, if blue jeans, then clean no holes blue jeans.
The occasion might call for a T-shirt, OK but no T-shirt with any writing.
Guys look at yourself in the mirror and say do I look my best, would I like to be seen
with me.
MEETING HER
PARENTS
NEVER, NEVER drive up
in front of your date's house and honk expecting her to come out to the car. Go in
and meet the girl's parents. Be on your best behavior, YES MA'AM, NO MA'AM, YES SIR
and NO SIR are appropriate. When shaking the Father's hand give a good firm
handshake. Tell them where you are going and what you will be doing. Guys to
really make and impression on your date's parents ask them "What time should I have
(your dates name here) home?" And guys have your date home and in the house by
the time the parents say. This is the time to act like a man not a kid and always be
polite. When you date comes into the room or if she meets you at the door tell her
she looks great. To make and impression on your date and her parents bring flowers.
By the way flowers don't have to be elaborate or costly either, a single rose, or
daisies as my date always preferred. Another rule of thumb don't hang around too
long talking to the parents, remember you have your date waiting.
OPENING DOORS
Always open all doors,
the door when leaving the parents house, the car door and all doors after that. It's
not that girls are weak, you are just saying I respect you and it's the thing to do and it
makes an impression. Believe me most girls like it.
WALKING WITH
YOU DATE
Always when walking
your date have the lady in front or beside you. (There are a couple of exceptions
which I will talk about later.) If walking down a narrow aisle, for instance in a
restaurant, let the lady go first, with you directly behind. If walking down a wide
enough area for both of you to walk together never let her trail, always put her first.
There are only two exceptions that I can think of, of course if she is in danger
you will put yourself between her and the danger. If you are in a crowded location
and maneuvering through a crowd is the only option, then you lead, making way for her,
holding her hand and looking back often to see if she is making it alright.
TALKING
This is one topic that
you are just about on your own, nobody can tell you what to say, but perhaps a few
pointers. Don't talk too much about yourself unless she asks and then only answer
her questions with some elaboration. Talk about things the both of you have in
common. Ask things about her too, let her know you are interested in her.
Think about her and putting her first during the date (she should have you undivided
attention) and conversation should follow.
DON'T LOOK
GUYS
I know it's hard when
a pretty girl comes in the room not to look, take a quick glance, maybe a look (3 seconds
maximum) and then immediately focus you attention back on you date and don't look again.
Guys how would you like it if your date was constantly staring at a good looking
guy, other than yourself.
NEVER LEAVE
YOUR DATE ALONE
This is a true story
guys, while at a restaurant after eating the girl goes to the restroom, the guy decides to
pay out and wait for her in the car. Well she comes out and doesn't have a clue
where he is, but she finally finds him waiting in the car, needless to say that was the
last time they ever dated. DON'T LEAVE YOUR DATE. If she goes to the restroom
as in the above case watch the restroom doors for her to come out and be waiting for her.
Be near by so she can see you when she comes out and walk her out. If you
have to go to the restroom try to go at the same time she does, but tell her where you
will be in case she comes out first. Always decide on a meeting place before leaving
each other.
WALK YOUR DATE
TO THE FRONT DOOR
You are responsible
for her from the time she walks out her front door until the time you see her walk in that
same front door. NEVER let your date walk up to her front door alone. Walk her
to the front door PERIOD. It just could be the best part of the date guys, read the
next section.
KISSING ON THE
FIRST DATE
This is a very awkward
time for the man, so ladies any help from you can really help. You have walked her
to the front door. You tell her that you had a great time and really enjoyed being
with her. Guys if the girl doesn't give you a hint in any way about the goodnight
kiss, then ask her. Ask her straight out if you can give her a goodnight kiss before
you have to go. If she says yes then be mindful of where her hands go, if on your
arms or shoulders usually she is only expecting a peck. If her hands are on your
waist then possibly a little more than a peck. A girls hands are on your arms or
waist where she can push you back if need be. Respect this guys and don't go any
further than what she wants. If her hands go completely around your waist or around
your neck then possibly she wants a more lingering kiss. But guys please not a body
crushing kiss, the girls don't want broken bones or bruised lips. But let the girl
lead, if she pushes back then stop.
This
page created on April 5, 2002 by Lara Williams